Saving Others

This topic hits close to home for everyone who has a heart and a soul and is always trying to help the people in their lives. Life is full of ups and downs as we all know and we all are riding the roller coaster of life in our own time frame. Someone can be at the top of the tracks while someone else has just hit the lowest point.

Life is constantly evolving and we all are having our best and worst days at different times.

Throughout these times we often want to help the people that mean the most to us in our lives. However, we can’t change these situations for the people around us we can only help them continue to push forwards. Anaïs Nin once said,” You cannot save people, you can only love them.” These are tough words to internalize.

Sometimes we put so much time, effort, and energy into trying to help others that we even tend to lose ourselves.

People go through different struggles whether it is relationships, career, emotional, or even personal struggles with addictions. You can put all your energy and time into trying to tell someone how to work out a tough relationship, how to push forwards in their career, how to help someone with depression how to be happy. You can give all the advice in the world and the reality of the matter is that you only have so much control.

You can help all you want but the other person has to be willing to take the step and change themselves.

We can be there to comfort them, listen to them, help, support, and of course, love them. However, this is the most that we can do. Without realizing this you can lose yourself along with your friend or loved one. It is important to find a balance between how to help and also help yourself because the reality of the matter is you can only save yourself.

Saving others is impossible.

It is up to the other person how they wish to proceed. How they choose to take the next step and decision. So, be the best friend, parent, or whatever position you hold that you can be, and remember this is the best that you can do. People may be looking for a savior, but the only savior that can truly help them is themselves.

xoxo

BB Jean