Careful with Your Language

I know I know BB are you seriously going to give me a lecture on how many times I drop the F-bomb? No, I promise this is not that conversation we are about to have because I am far too guilty to preach to you about the number of curse words you drop on a daily basis.

However, I do want to talk about how the words we use about ourselves and to ourselves can have a bigger impact on us than it seems. Now, you might be saying, “sure I use negative language with myself, but that is normal.”

In this game of life, we already have so many people around us wishing us bad, saying mean things to us, tearing us down, and making us want to go and crawl in a hole.

So, why are you letting yourself be one of these people that tear you down?

You should be your own biggest supporter because at the end of the day you are all you have got. Sure, you hopefully have a loving family, friends, and partner surrounding you.

However, you are the closest to you that anyone will ever be!

So, why do we let ourselves use words that diminish our own self-worth and tear us down when the world is already trying to accomplish this on a daily basis?

I found myself doing this where I use to tell myself that I am stupid when I make a mistake, also criticizing myself so hard for something that I had absolutely no control over.

I found this also hurting my self-esteem when this came to my career. I would find myself saying this girl is bigger than me in her career. However what is a “big model.” Success is in the eyes of the beholder. I started to think recently, what really makes a girl “big” in her career? Even though these are small not even hurtful words, was I slowly diminishing my self worth I started to ask myself?

These small words can affect us in ways subconsciously that we do not even realize.

We start to feel smaller than we should because we create more insecurities internally within ourselves. People’s perceptions of you are in their own eyes and people will always form their own opinions. So do you, you can never please everyone. However, please talk kindly to yourself.

Become aware of the words you say subconsciously to yourself and find a way to minimize the negative ones.

Find a way to instantly detect the words in your head and remind yourself to stop. Every time you say a negative word about yourself in your mind you could pinch yourself or flick your hairband on your wrist. You could also say a mantra of self-love such as “I love myself, and I will be kind to myself” each time you hear your own negative words. These little actions will make a difference in how you feel about yourself and hopefully lift your mood and perception of yourself overall.

Be your own biggest fan, not your own worst enemy.

Love yourself as you wish to be loved. Subtle changes over time can lead you into becoming the person you only once dreamed of being. You got this!

xoxo

BB Jean