Inner Happiness for Others

Hello, I am back! I was so consistent with this blog posting weekly posts for months until recently I have felt uninspired. I was having a hard time writing a post that resonated with me, felt genuine, and was a new perspective compared to my other posts. However, here I am back again and currently on the hunt to find ways to feel inspired to post more freely.

Today I want to talk about being happy for others when they succeed.

I touched base on this topic a while back, but I want to talk about how to be able to seriously wish well for others. I want to start with my story and tell you my personal journey with this.

When I started modeling I was 17 years old and I had all these dreams in the back of my mind to be a big model, but I did not know what actually jobs I dreamed of achieving to consider myself a “big model.” I saw all these people around me with their careers exploding and all I could think was “I want what they have.” However, meanwhile, I looked at success as what others were accomplishing.

Yet, I was not making goals for what I really loved and wanted to accomplish myself.

Even though I was happy for my friends and these people who were doing big things, I also felt like it was unfair this was not happening to me. I would ask myself, why are they getting big fast and not me?

The jealousy started to set in and then all this hatred and resentment started to build up inside me.

As I started to grow older emotionally, I worked on my self-esteem, confidence, and creating new goals I was then able to finally learn to wish well for others.

The key to becoming happy for others is first being happy with yourself.

I know it sounds so sappy and love story-esque. However, it is truly the cure to jealousy. Knowing that you are on your own path. Knowing that when you GENUINELY wish well for others more happiness can be felt within yourself. I like to believe you will receive more happiness yourself when you wish real happiness for others.

All that negative energy of hatred, jealousy, and resentment can eat away at you making you drive yourself crazy with guilt and fighting with your inner demons.

When you can finally hear someone saying what they are achieving and be happy for them while knowing all the things you want to accomplish have their own time, that is an amazing feeling! Full disclosure, as you continue to grow certain things can still turn the switch to make you jealous again. However, you can fight those nasty little demons and be happy for others once again. The world is one big and amazing place!

Your time for your success does not rely on other people’s timelines of success.

You can still achieve your goals while others achieve their goals. I promise you feeling genuinely happy for them internally will make you even more proud and happy of yourself when you achieve your own goals.

You do not have to push others down in order to put yourself back up.

Do not be scared, get down and deep with those little internal demons of insecurity and jealousy. Killing those demons and being able to focus your time and energy focusing on your next big goals instead of contemplating your negative thoughts will be worth it!

Now get deep with yourself. Believe that your success has its own time. Most importantly, remember if you fall back into your old ways of thinking you are strong enough today that you can pull yourself out.

Thank you for continuing to read my blog and for your love and support, it means a lot!

Now, go kick some ass!

XOXO

BB Jean