Loneliness
Someone asked me the other day is loneliness a gift or a curse. This question really was so amazing, because it really can be either but it all depends on your personal perception. We all are humans and therefore even the most introverted people need some human interaction. During this past year though many of you have been forced to be away from family, friends, traveling, work, and in general social interaction.
Loneliness can be a gift, a form of internal analysis.
Where you get to do what some people find the scariest of all, getting to know yourself on a deeper level. Your own potential can seem scary unless you embrace all the amazing qualities that you have and reflect all the hurt and fear that you hold internally towards others or against yourself.
Loneliness can be a period of growing self love and of personal development.
Where you can become good at a new hobby, discover a new ambition, dream about your future, and even educate yourself on a new topic or subject. The negative aspect of loneliness can be self reflection where it can become a deep and depressing never ending tunnel of time where all your negative aspects you see within yourself emerge. You can begin to feel self pity towards yourself and before you know it depression is a real thing.
The key is to be able to become comfortable within yourself where you can start to decipher where the root of these insecurities, fears, and grudges are within.
Psychologists recommend and also I have found useful journaling all the thoughts that come to mind when you think about your negative emotions and thoughts and who you can forgive slowly to start to eliminate your pain within. Self-pity is a demon of its own. When we start to feel sorry for ourselves we only set ourselves steps further behind into our own personal growth journey.
Self-Pity takes away time that could be spent envisioning and planning a bigger and exciting life for yourself.
Overall, the moral of this post is life is what you make it. You choose your destiny, your goals, and your ambitions. The perception you choose to see your current situation can help you achieve more than you ever desired or leave you stagnant and unable to achieve what you truly want. Let’s try to make loneliness a gift and allow it to help us love ourselves more, discover new parts of ourselves within, and be happier in our bodies. You were made and put on this world specifically to be the unique person you are.
The universe is the limit, so don’t let your head stay hanging in the clouds.
Love,
BB Jean