Self-Love
Self-love….you know about it, you hear about it, you probably read about it, but do you actually implement it?
I have had my own journey with self-love. I grew up with barely any confidence. Even though I grew up in a great and loving household, I was raised to be selfless and I somehow ended up extremely insecure. I went through a period of about a year where I would say I’m sorry a good hundred times a day. It was a habit that I had to break. My dance teacher would always tell me to be a confident ice skater. I wasn't an ice skater but this definitely did help me.
Today I can say that I am definitely confident in my body. However, it was a journey and it still is a journey. You do not wake up one day like “wow I love myself so much.” It is a continuous process that can be filled with lots of ups and downs.
Today I am still in the process of continuing to love myself.
The perception of self-love though is a bit twisted. Self-love is NOT about being perfect. Self-love is about feeling comfortable in your body. Self-love is about standing up for yourself and what you want. Self-love is about believing in yourself. Self-love most importantly is being your own biggest fan. That means when you fall down, you can get back up and forgive yourself for your faults and your mistakes. The world can be a tough place filled with nay-sayers, haters, and hardships. Do not make it harder on yourself than it already is.
if you love yourself you can get through all the bad times and around all the bad people easier than you ever could otherwise.
I use to believe self-love was being selfish. When I say self-love, I do not mean being a narcissist. I mean being nice to yourself with your own words and criticisms, doing things for yourself that feel good, saying no when you do not want to do something, and not being scared to be your authentic self. There is only one you. There will only ever be the one you.
So be the best you can be!
Do this NOT for your partner, your parents, or to prove to someone else you’re worth it, but DO IT FOR YOURSELF. Doing for someone else is not going to let you be your true authentic self for yourself. Self-love is the key to a more positive, happy, and fulfilled life. So start now. Start listening to the words you tell yourself about yourself. When you love yourself life starts to slowly fall its way into place. Do not try to replace an empty void within yourself with someone else, become the missing piece. So, turn those negative thoughts into positive thoughts, and become one self-loving machine.
You can do this, I believe in you!
xoxo
BB Jean