Jealousy

Oh, the devil of all evils, jealousy. We all have experienced jealousy throughout our lives to different degrees. We all react to it differently whether you become depressed, angry, anxious, sad, or maybe even motivated. Jealousy can destroy relationships, make us hate on others, and send us into a spiral of downhill self-criticism. Jealousy happens to us all and trying to stop jealousy can be extremely hard. It is like trying to not eat dessert at Christmas dinner while it is staring deep down into your soul. We all have a level of degrees of things we want and desire.

Especially in today’s age of social media galore, wanting things you don’t have has become the biggest commodity….whether it is a skinnier body, more money, a bigger house, a new Birkin, or that expensive car. Maybe it isn’t even an object you desire, maybe it is a perfect relationship, cute kids, or a group of great friends.

We are all unique in our own kind and have different things we desire.

Instagram especially is a haven for celebrities such as Kylie Jenner and Cardi B flouting their newest car they trade out like workout routines and their new bags that match their daily underwear.

We cannot hate their success, but we can learn to minimize our exposure.

Become clear with what is making you jealous. What is the biggest trigger that sets you off? Find it and invest the time you would normally be obsessing over other people’s things and spend it on focusing on what you want to achieve. Social media can also be a beautiful thing. It can show people all over the world what success can bring. It can make people from the smallest towns see all there is out there in the world to see.

It is all about what we make it.

So, let’s make the most of it. Instead of becoming jealous off of the things you want, become grateful for it appearing in your life for making you realize you want bigger and better things. At the end of the day, we control our minds and we control our thoughts. Stay in a mindset of continued motivation and drive to try and achieve what you want, do NOT let these emotions make you feel down.

I know easier said than done BB. It will not happen overnight, but making subtle changes to your jealousy tendencies will only make you happier and less depressed. We are all a work in progress, so do not be so hard on yourself. Be nice to yourself, be patient with yourself, and remember life is a journey.

…and remember no one’s life is as it seems on social media. Everyone is fighting their own battles. Some of the richest people are the saddest and some of those perfect relationships online are abusive. Make the most of your life, follow people who make you feel happy and motivated, and surround yourself with people who continue to make you want to be the best you you can be.

You can win the battle with jealousy, now go kick some ass!

xoxo

BB Jean